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I talk to myself. <\/span><\/p>\n

One day, my son, Gra\u00adham, heard me say, \u201cAh, Lisa, ya dum\u00adb\u00adass,\u201d under my breath. <\/span><\/p>\n

I had made a sil\u00adly mis\u00adtake dri\u00adving some\u00adwhere. And I was, I thought, qui\u00adet\u00adly rep\u00adri\u00admand\u00ading myself for it. Gra\u00adham looked at me and said, \u201cBruh, that was harsh. You shouldn\u2019t talk that way to yourself.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

Aside from the fact that I don\u2019t like that he calls me \u201cBruh,\u201d I loved every\u00adthing my son said. <\/span><\/p>\n

In his easy man\u00adner, he summed up a habit of my life\u00adtime \u2014 gen\u00adtly, yet cru\u00adel\u00adly, nit-pick\u00ading every error I make \u2014 and often point\u00ading out every error oth\u00ader peo\u00adple make, too. Each time I qui\u00adet\u00adly rep\u00adri\u00admand myself with a light\u00adheart\u00aded \u201cdum\u00adb\u00adass\u201d, \u201cbone\u00adhead\u201d, \u201c idiot.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

I tell myself that I am all of those things. It\u2019s not kind. To me. It\u2019s not kind to me to speak so harsh\u00adly to me when all I did was make a sil\u00adly error that caused no pain, hard\u00adship, loss of income, life \u2014 or any\u00adthing. I made a wrong turn. I was still 5 min\u00adutes ear\u00adly! I am not a dum\u00adb\u00adass. Yet, when I make sil\u00adly mis\u00adtakes, I call myself names.  When the truth is, I am none of those things. I\u2019m learn\u00ading from Graham\u2019s wis\u00addom every day. <\/span><\/p>\n

There are rea\u00adsons I do it, but the rea\u00adsons aren\u2019t impor\u00adtant. Every\u00adone has rea\u00adsons for their unpleas\u00adant behav\u00adiors. I want to change my unpleas\u00adant and harm\u00adful behavior. <\/span><\/p>\n

Self-talk is pow\u00ader\u00adful. Self-talk can change. Self-talk is powerful.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I go to improv class\u00ades. That includes drop-ins for first timers and 8\u2011week class\u00ades for the more sea\u00adsoned impro\u00advi\u00adsors. I go to play with grown-ups in a place where it\u2019s appro\u00adpri\u00adate to play with grown-ups. It\u2019s sil\u00adly. It\u2019s fun. It\u2019s mind\u00adless and mind\u00adful all at the same time. It\u2019s bet\u00adter than ther\u00ada\u00adpy, and I love a good ther\u00ada\u00adpy session. <\/span><\/p>\n

The rea\u00adson I feel all those pos\u00adi\u00adtive things at improv is because improv is a place where you get to say kind things and sil\u00adly things and out\u00adra\u00adgeous\u00adly ridicu\u00adlous things and there are no mis\u00adtakes. <\/span>Every\u00adthing works in improv,<\/b> because improv isn\u2019t planned. If it hap\u00adpens, appar\u00adent\u00adly, it was sup\u00adposed to hap\u00adpen that way, so it can\u2019t be a mis\u00adtake. This is liberating. <\/b><\/p>\n

When I learned to make mis\u00adtakes and rev\u00adel in them, I began to feel joy. Only through that release of ten\u00adsion and feel\u00ading of joy could I focus on the mis\u00adtakes to learn from them. And then, I real\u00adly felt joy. I learned how to change how I speak to myself through improv. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fail\u00ading Fab\u00adu\u00adlous\u00adly in a safe space. It\u2019s a cute catch\u00adphrase, I know. And it\u2019s so much more than that. It\u2019s the free\u00addom to know you can make mis\u00adtakes and it\u2019s okay because that adds to your joy. In improv, the mis\u00adtakes are what make us laugh and release ten\u00adsion. When we feel free to fail instead of obsess\u00ading and over-react\u00ading to our own mis\u00adtakes (I\u2019d nev\u00ader react like I did if my son made a wrong turn), we learn. We become better. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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